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8.18.2005

I've Been Resting...

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it."If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on." "As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."

"Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. Relax, and pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!"

And then he shared some ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

* Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.* Never buy a car you can't push.* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.* The second mouse gets the cheese.* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.* We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.* A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour

There is so much truth in this and how stress and burdens that we carry around with us tear us apart. I know people who are mad, mad all the time its seems and nothing changes that. I know people who are mad about stuff that happened a week ago, a month ago, a year ago, five years ago...let it go people. I know I am "too forgiving" but that is me because I do not like feel mad and stressed all the time. It eats at you and effects all the people who come in contact with you. I have personally seen this...it is all around. I think if people would spend more time forgiving and forgetting where they are burdened and less time worrying and torturing themselves and people around them, then they would find themselves a lot happier people. You know, it is a sin to worry...that is God's job. So take a break, let your heart and your shoulders rest awhile...give it away to someone who really does care and wants to listen and worry for you.

3 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's a really good post, all those things are so true, and its good to hear them again and again. People who are determined to be mad make me tired. Ha. I love you, Ms Deb

9:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that's all so true. i've never been an angry person and never been one that's had to endure too much personal injustice between friends or family.

on paper this sounds weird so i'm going to do an example. a friend stole a cd from me once. "borrowed without asking" really. when i found out i was shocked and got it back. we weren't close enough to do that, i didn't think. now, i don't forgive him. he's still a friend. a good sweet friend. but i'll be damned if he gets to play with my cd's unsupervised again. ha.

so, i don't keep things with me and i don't hold grudges and i don't get angry, but at the same time i don't really forgive or forget. weird.

12:08 PM  
Blogger Reality Chick said...

I'm not a grudge toter, but I do learn my lessons quickly now that I'm older. Burn me once? And you are toast! LOL

Not really...I don't retaliate, I just don't give you a chance to hurt me again.

Once I forgive, it's for life.

2:18 AM  

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