i was just wondering if any one out there had experience dealing w/ a situation of divorce where the other parent is a HUGE ASSHOLE and curses every other breath and is just down right mean!!!! if so, i need some advice on how to deal w/ this HUGE ASSHOLE person. how do you talk to someone who is always screaming at you and putting you down?
posted by Jennifer @ 7.4.06
6 Comments:
HE-LLO! That is why you left his stankin ass!
He is always about himself and nobody else! He wants to put you down so that he won't have to step up to the plate and be the man that he can never be!
There is a time and place for disagreement and the occassional argument and sometimes you can take a few factors out of the situation and usually find the root of the problem, but this one has nothing to do with you or baby Madd.
Your doing a wonderful job, girl. It takes a lot for a person to raise a child on their own and not try to find another man to replace the last one. You have taken the time to spend with your son and make a peaceful life for the both of you, so when devil comes to town- he beams with anger and sadness.
I so wished there was some way we could all have helped him or help him now, but he just don't get it. Why is it men don't see the real importance of family. not life and just having kids to say you have kids, but family. The simple things are what matters the most. Taking them to church on sunday, picking them up from school, listening to them talk, knowing their friends, and being a parent that wants to be involved and not just send money! You have to put your kids first whether it is letting go of bad habits or bad company or bad ways. If you don't put them before your own selfish needs- then their is no reason to poison an inocent child with the same bad choices.
It is not you.
I love you jennifer-
jeanne - thank you for your comment. i wish he could see how he acts and how it effects people. short fuse? yes and especially when he doesn't get to put himself first. it does just reinforce my good decision not to stay with him and that always makes me feel better. i feel sorry for him b/c he is missing so much and by his own choice.
jenny-thank you for your prayers. i know that is all i can really do to help the situation. i have to give him to God.
i think i must be having pms. i seem a little wretched on my last couple of post. except the jeanne page of course. really i do have a lot of be aggrivated about but it is a waste of energy. i have more to be happy about.
divorce? you were married? sorry he's such an asshole. unfortunately, i understand and you're a bigger woman than me right now.
It's okay to be frustrated and to vent ;) Blogs are great for that cause it's not directed at anyone else in general.
I don't have any real wisdom for you either... I have been through 5 divorces... 4 of my moms and 1 of my dads and I know how hard they can be on kids.
I think if you can just avoid contact as much as possible and when you do have contact with him stear clear of hot topics or just let him know that as soon as he starts getting out of control you are going to discontinue the conversation until he can act like a normal person.
I will pray for you and you just be strong and have faith. When you're about to lose it just remember God never gives you a burden to big ;) He'll be there with you.
*Hugs*
I am sorry for the times you are going through. The only thing I can say is that these times will pass but in the meantime, they SUCK!!
What I would do is to talk through an intermediary so that they deliver your message without the noise and you don't have to listen to foul language.
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